Life can be challenging, and we would all like to be optimists and focus on the positive things that happen in our lives, but that is not the case. Everyone has a suggestion for adopting positive habits; affirmations, journals, and even meditation are some remedies thrown at us. As we go through life, some situations will knock us down and leave us dealing with negative emotions. Fortunately, if you have coping mechanisms that you can turn to, you can find a reason to smile and a way back to being your positive self.
Forming positive habits
It takes time to form a habit and to have it become a part of who you are. The good part about forming positive habits is that it becomes innate. Going to therapy is a positive habit that people appreciate because of the results they get. People that go for therapy make it a point not to miss their sessions. Regardless of how good or bad things are, they will make time for therapy. The way showering and making your bed comes; naturally, positive habits also become your second nature.
How important is it to form positive habits?
Our attitude determines how we experience what happens to us. If you are pessimistic, you will not be able to see the positive things that happen to you. You will focus on the negative, and you will be lethargic about life because no good things happen to you. This is why people are encouraged to keep gratitude journals. A gratitude journal is a place where you document all the things that you are grateful for. Whenever you feel like nothing is going your way, you have a reminder of all the good things you have experienced in life; all you need is to read your journal. In times of sorrow, it can be challenging to remember any good thing, so a gratitude journal will be the reminder you need.
How do I adopt positivity as a habit?
Adopting a new habit is challenging, and we have all been there. Whether it’s adopting a healthy lifestyle or trying to find ways to be productive, we all know how hard it is to adopt a new routine. The most important parts of adopting positivity are consistency and patience. These are some of the steps that you can take to adopt positivity as a habit:
- Identify the behavior you want to change
If you are pessimistic about life, the behavior you would want to change would be pessimism. Once you identify the behavior, then you look into how it is affecting your life. Knowing the cause and effect of the behavior you want to change will keep you motivated to do better. Whenever you feel like you are tired of being positive, you can reference how pessimism affected your life and if it helped you in any way.
- Come up with a plan to change the negative behavior
We all have people who constantly complain about what goes on in their lives and are never grateful for anything. Every time you talk to them, they have something to complain about, and the more you listen, the more they complain. If you are one of those people, make a mental note to stop complaining for a week. When you get the urge to complain, say something you are grateful for. You may not feel grateful in the moment, but it will distract you from going down the rabbit hole of negativity. The saying fake it until you make it is a principle to try.
- Be kind to yourself
Even when you strive to do better, you may stumble a few times. That is the time when you need to be kind to yourself. You are not perfect, and you will slip up from time to time. If you are trying to change negative self-talk, be conscious of what you say about yourself. You may have a hard day and say one negative thing; don’t let that get you down. Pick yourself up and remember how the self-fulfilling prophecy works. Everything you say to yourself is stored in your subconscious, and you want to feed your mind positive words.
- Surround yourself with positive people
If you want to adopt a positive attitude, you need to have positive people around you. They say you are the people you spend time with, and it will be hard to change if you surround yourself with negative people. You would rather have people who uplift you and share their inspirations with you than people who speak negatively as you try to be positive.
Your attitude will not only affect how you see life but it how you respond to the circumstances you find yourself in. If you feel hopeless and one minor mishap happens, you will feel defeated by life. “Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habits” Unknown.