Ross W. Greene Quotes

No kid should be getting three or four hours of homework a night. There’s no breathing time, there’s no family time, there are just extracurriculars and homework and then go to bed.

When there’s a good fit between skills and expectations, there’s what we call compatibility, and we would expect a good outcome. When there’s a poor fit between expectations and the capacity of the kid, there is incompatibility, and that’s when we see people exhibit challenging behavior.

We have forgotten that those skills on the more positive side of human nature have to be taught, have to be modeled, have to be practiced.

If we’re being unilateral, then communication does not happen, the relationship does not happen.

My advice to educators is collaborate with parents; they know a lot about their kids.

When people are rushed, they’re stressed and you greatly increase the likelihood of being punitive and unilateral just because you’re trying to grasp control.

You want to teach all kids the skills that are on the better side of human nature: empathy, appreciating how one’s behavior is affecting other people, resolving disagreements in ways that do not involve conflict, taking another’s perspective, honesty.

There is still quite the vibe out there that as a parent you have to be completely in control and in charge.

Being completely in control is a fantasy.

Solutions can’t be imposed. That just fosters resentment.

Most parents are accustomed to dealing with problems in the heat of the moment.

It’s a whole lot more productive to be in problem-solving mode than it is to be in behavior modification mode.