In November 1891, the British sexologist Havelock Ellis married the writer and lesbian Edith Lees. He was 32 and a virgin. And since he was impotent, they never consummated their union. After their honeymoon, the two lived separately in what he called an open marriage.
It is not how much we have, but how much we enjoy, that makes happiness. ~ Charles Spurgeon
Decisions are a part of life. At various times you may need to choose the best vacation spot, job candidate, babysitter, or place to live. Your most important decision may be figuring out your best romantic partner.
Being someone’s BFF is a big deal – you don’t hand over the other half of your “Best Friends” necklace to just anyone. Having a romantic partner who is also your best friend potentially sounds perfect.
Is he or she the one? You know… the one to introduce to my parents, the one to move in with, the one to start a family with, the one to marry? At some point in every dating relationship, you ask yourself some version of these questions.
Have you ever wondered about the secret to attracting a partner? You don’t have to be gorgeous, smart, and rich to attract someone else’s attention. The wonderful truth is that it’s much easier than that.
There’s an old saying, “When you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot in it and hang on.” In other words, before you give up, take matters into your own hands and try a little harder.
We all have the experience of outgrowing a relationship. Sometimes a long friendship ends abruptly, but sometimes it just feels like a long, slow, painful death. Sometimes you understand why it ended, but sometimes you are left hanging in the wind wondering what in the Hell happened.
As life gets busier due to career, family, and other demands, friendships may seem inessential. However, good friendships are crucial to one’s well-being because they offer a wealth of benefits—from reducing stress to lowering blood pressure.
Hello Dr. G. My wife recently left me. She told me that she wanted to find her path. She believes that she is an empath and she wants to become a holistic healer. I told her that she could do whatever she wanted but she feels I am a hinderance to her plan.
Americans say thanks a lot, but other cultures may have a deeper understanding of gratitude. If you’re trying to become happier, you’ve probably heard the advice to practice gratitude. “Gratitude is literally one of the few things that can measurably change people’s lives,” writes pioneering researcher Robert Emmons in his book Thanks!
Hi Dr. G. I read your advice to others regularly. Thank you. I have been a member of the Love Expands dating service for a short few weeks now. I have been divorced for almost 8 years.
Identifying toxic work relationships can be difficult for a couple of reasons. First, because you spend so much time with your coworkers, you may become immune to bad behaviors. Like the proverbial frog in the cooking pot who fails to notice the increasing heat, you may have simply acclimated and accepted certain behaviors as inevitable.
Relationships can be difficult. They’re even more difficult when one of the parties is a toxic, negative person. Toxic people show up in every type of relationship imaginable whether they’re personal, professional, or casual. Their behaviors and actions are emotionally and mentally draining, leaving everyone who they come in contact with feeling lousy about themselves.
Dr. G, Hello!! My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We are both 24, and until recently, have been very happy. Our parents have met and marriage has been discussed, but I am having second thoughts.
There was a time when the idea of moving away from a traditional monogamous relationship was a taboo issue. Traditionally, marriage meant quite literally “til death do us part.” However, in modern society, open relationships are becoming ever more common.
Hi Dr. G., Firstly, I really enjoy reading your response’s to different people. I think you are on point about every single thing. Getting to the point, I basically have just started talking to this guy.
You’re in love, or at least it feels that way. Perhaps your new relationship seems more intense than your previous ones. You may feel like you’re on a rollercoaster ride because of all the ups and downs.
Perhaps one of our greatest flaws as human beings is how easily we slip into a state of complacency and take for granted the mundane and seemingly benign or implicit parts of life. David Foster Wallace spoke poignantly about this reality in his commencement speech in 2005.
Words have weight. There is a certain gravity to a word. Some words are neutral, but the words we are most interested in are the words that carry power or denote strong, and often negative meaning.