Everyday we are reminded of the past. It can be a simple thought about what someone said to you the day before, some incident that happened you can’t veer your mind away from, or you feel pain somewhere in your body from a past injury. The past counts as early as a few seconds ago, not just months or years ago. With each moment passing, so becomes the past.
Here are your choices:
A. It can become your life story, with your experiences defining you so you can keep making excuses for staying right where you are (i.e. emotionally, financially, or with your health).
B. Feel sorry for yourself, and seek the attention of others with your attitude and problems, and look to enable your anger, behaviors, or feeling of pain.
C. Start fresh each and every day you wake up, so you may learn new things, reach new goals, attract positive energy, and focus on living rather than existing.
So how do we keep our “past” from defining us?
Being mindful of not becoming attached to what has already occurred is important in moving forward with your life. Each day has the opportunity for a new start, how awesome it that?! But how many of us really take that and use it? We already know and have experienced what happened to us yesterday, or the day before, months, and years before. So why does our mind keep hitting the replay button? Is it easier to stay behind than forge ahead? We have been programmed through our experiences, and if we aren’t letting anything new in, try to plan resolve, or continue to settle for less than what we deserve, we live the same circumstances and experiences day after day.
In order to move forward, it is key to be aware of when you are bringing up the past within your thoughts or in a conversation. Ask yourself, “What purpose does it serve me by bringing up this story, or what does this have to do with my life now?” If it serves a purpose toward a positive goal or outcome, awesome. If it drags you back to a bad time in your life, not awesome.
If you are trying to eat healthier, lose weight, or become more physically active, you also should be prepared with mindful questions to ask yourself. Are you going to pass on that double McDaddy cheeseburger blah blah because it is NOT good fuel for your body and conducive to your goals, or will you eat it because that is the choice you have always made because it made you feel temporarily good in the past.
The more you practice centering yourself in each second of each moment of every day, the more often you will find yourself discovering what it is like to live in the present moment, and become aware of what you have been missing out on.