Amber Hollibaugh Quotes

When people give up sex and give up love or they only have love in the context of tradition then I think we’re missing the opportunity of saying to each other building community, building desire in community gives all of us the possibility of learning how to be who we always were terrified we’d find out we were, and then not be ashamed of it and to not have our desire and our love embedded in shame is a profound thing and it’s part of what drives the movement.

We’re targeted as LGBTQ people because we make people nervous around sex and we practice desire or have the possibility of practicing desire in magical and very, very profound ways. We shouldn’t be giving up the possibility of articulating the claim of our body and the claim of our desire as something distinctive and erotically profound.

For a political movement to not understand that sexuality is a profound component of both how people are oppressed and how people dream, is not to recognize the reality of political power and where it’s centered.

To actually be possessed or possess someone in a way that is unimaginable when you’re a young person struggling about your body and whether anybody would ever want you, that’s a huge world and that doesn’t shift because you’re fifty; it doesn’t shift because you’re 80. It’s a vision of the possibility of claiming the right to dream and imagine an impossible place that you were never allowed to go, but you want the world to have as a possibility in the future.

I’m a high femme lesbian who loves butch women. That erotic identity has an enormous amount to do with how I live my life, who I live my life with and what it is we can or can’t do.

I didn’t come out and pay a really painful price often, to be LGBT, to not claim my sexuality at the same time. It’s not all right with me to not talk about it so I don’t make anybody nervous.

Being respectful of extraordinary work that has happened in the last thirty-five years is not the same thing as it reflecting my values. I’m not sorry that gays can now enter the military and I’m not sorry that we can marry, but frankly I come from a moment in time, a radical vision in time that never made marriage or the military my criteria of success.

I think that white people are not seen as people with racial histories.

If you want to be backed by corporations so that you’re elected mayor, then it’s going to be very problematic for you to support a living wage campaign that would shift the minimum wage to something else.

In women’s shelters the kind of clothes that women are given to go to job interviews are all girl clothes: little heels, little skirt. If you’re gender nonconforming, you’re a lesbian, you’re not going to put those clothes on to go to a job interview.

To take on the question of race in America and believe that you could transform this country so that it would actually be a place that was welcoming for everyone that was here, including dealing with the history of slavery and the kind of oppression this country is based on, that’s an amazing moment to begin to find your own political ideals.

We’re impacted by all the intersections of our identities and those then are reflected on what our choices are.